I don’t know. I think the two seconds it takes for me to tag something is worth saving someone else the agony of a trigger. Whether it’s a 45 minute panic attack, a missed day of work, a night of dissociation, or a trip to the hospital. It takes me two seconds to make sure I have my bases covered so someone can avoid that.
Me: You really can't stay.
Me: (in a tiny 'spider' voice) But, baby, it's cold outside.
Me: (normal voice) Well, okay then. But just for one night.
Is spirit-work etiquette much the same as live-people-etiquette?
It depends on your relationship to the spirit. Of course, every practice is different. With regards to mine, there are three different ways I can work with a spirit.
The first is a one-time contact. They are offered one shot of liquor and a small bowl of tobacco for their cooperation. I don’t ask them for a name. I work with symbols instead that they use to identify themselves. I give them a set of ground rules wants the contact is established. I ask if they understand and agree to the rules and, if they do, we proceed from there. There’s a lot of ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ on my end. I give respect before I expect to receive it.
Second, there is a temporary contract. This is different from contact. This is when I call on a spirit, usually from a cemetery, to do a job for me. They are given one alcohol and tobacco offering before the job is detailed and one after the job is completed. All the name customs and rules apply.
Lastly, there’s a permanent contract. These are spirits that are employed on a long-term basis, and given offerings on a regular basis. I know their names. They know my real name. I have my normal ground rules, but I also respect theirs. The relationship is still respectful but more casual.
what i mean when i say “i can’t do that” - the depression edition
- i am unable to do that
- i don’t have the energy to do that
- i cannot wrap my head around what you’re asking me to do
- there is too much in my head right now
- i can not do that
what people hear:
- i am unwilling to do that
- i am being stubborn for no reason
- i am being dramatic
- i am lazy
- i need you to repeat that only louder
- i need a push
- i don’t want to do that
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am I the only person who says ‘ow’ in surprise even if what happened didn’t remotely hurt me